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Body language for interviews September 13, 2005

Posted by Coolguy in Lifehacks, Personality.
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Research has shown that tone of voice and body language accounts for 65 per cent of what’s communicated, and words account for 35 per cent of the message that’s communicated. Body language can give away a lot of our feelings, regardless of whether we keep our mouths shut or not. And without an awareness of our actions, nervousness, dishonesty, boredom and other negative attributes can become dead give-aways.

Here are some tips to improve your chances of getting that job. Here are some interview questions to get you prepared.

  • Before taking a seat, be mindful of what you’ll be staring at. If you have a choice, avoid staring at a bright window
  • If you don’t apparently have a choice, don’t be afraid to ask. Ensure that you have room to move and reposition yourself if you become stiff or restless
  • To begin with, you need to set yourself up in a confident and comfortable position to help avoid negative body language habits
  • Make sure you are comfortably seated in an upright position ensuring that no particular part of your body is under strain (e.g. your neck).
  • Keep your hands rested in your lap, your head raised showing an expression of interest, and relax your shoulders without slumping into the seat.
  • Fidgeting shows boredom and restlessness
  • Crossing arms indicates an unwillingness to listen
  • Tapping your foot is distracting and a sure sign of boredom
  • Doodling on paper shows you’re not paying attention
  • Touching your face or playing with your hair can be a sign that you’re hiding something
  • Looking away or hesitating before or while speaking indicates that you’re unsure of what you’re saying
  • A fixed, unfocused stare shows your attention is elsewhere
  • Speak clearly in a controlled range of tones, avoiding a monotone
  • Always pause before speaking. This avoids instinctively reacting and saying the wrong things
  • Speak slightly slower than normal, but don’t overdo it
  • Vary your tone and dynamics, but try not to speak too loudly or too softly
  • Don’t mumble or gabble on excitedly
  • Keep your hands away from your mouth as you speak
  • Watch your pitch. High-pitched voices are tough on the ears, and avoid a ‘sing-song’ tone
  • Let your voice show your enthusiasm and keenness

Be aware of the how your gestures portray a positive or negative image.

Positive body language

  • Responsive/eager: Leaning forward, open arms, nodding
  • Listening: Head tilted, constant eye contact, nodding and verbal acknowledgement
  • Attentive: Smiling
  • A smile is the most positive signal you can give. It reaffirms your enthusiasm and good nature, but be careful of over-grinning stupidly.
  • Maintain regular, attentive eye contact but remember to avert your gaze from time to time to avoid staring.
  • Relax! Give off calm signals and don’t rush through the interview. Be mindful of time, but let the interviewer dictate the pace of the interview.
  • Mirror the interviewer’s techniques. If they laugh, laugh with them, if they lean forward to impress a point, respond by leaning forward to show your attention.
  • Do not hurry any movement. If you’re challenged with a difficult question, remind yourself about negative body language habits before answering the question.
  • Try to maintain an alert position. Sit up straight and adjust your position slightly if you get uncomfortable, but don’t fidget.
  • Always try to adopt an open, honest and confident attitude. This is the starting point of managing subconscious body language.

Negative body language

  • Bored: Slumped posture, foot tapping, doodling
  • Rejection: Arms folded, head down, subconscious frowning
  • Aggression: Leaning too far forward, finger pointing, grinding teeth
  • Lying: Touching face, hands over mouth, eyes averted, shifting uncomfortably in your seat, glancing

Management/Interpersonal skills September 12, 2005

Posted by Coolguy in Management, Personality.
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  • Goal setting – ability to set specific and measurable goals;
  • Prioritizing – ability to identify and focus on the most important items;
  • Time management – ability to plan and keep to a schedule;
  • Organizing – ability to arrange work and work area in a way that optimizes productivity and efficiency;
  • Conflict management – ability to influence and negotiate “win-win” solutions;
  • Problem solving – ability to identify root cause problems, develop options, and select the best alternative;
  • Taking action – ability to implement plans and decisions;
  • Delegating – ability to assign tasks to others;
  • Saying “no” – ability to avoid taking on tasks that distract from priorities.

Roles & Interpersonal Skills of The Manager

  • Choosing appriopriate Leadership Style
  • Recruitment
  • Orientation of New Employees
  • Motivation Of Employees
  • Performance Evaluations
  • Discipline Of Employees
  • Transition Planning
  • Performance Problems
  • Communication Skills
  • Staff Meetings
  • Delegating Work to Others

Leader vs Manager September 11, 2005

Posted by Coolguy in Personality.
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  • The job of the leader is to rally people toward a better future.
  • It’s externally focused, optimistic, ego-driven.
  • Leaders see the present, but the future is even more vivid to them.
  • The key skill is to cut through individual differences and tap into those things all of us share: fear of the future and the need for clarity.


  • The role of the manager is very internally focused
  • To turn one person’s talent into performance.
  • To ask, “Who is the person? What is his or her unique style of learning? What unique trigger must I squeeze to get the best out of him?”
  • The challenge is to find what’s unique and capitalise on it.
  • It’s really different but hugely important in a company. It’s a role that’s been undervalued